When dating someone who’s different from you, take mental notes on what you’re comfortable with especially when it relates to culture and religion.You may be open to dating someone who comes from a different upbringing as you, but are you comfortable with a long term relationship when there’s such a difference?
Questions you may want to answer for yourself before asking your date:
- Do I want kids? If so how many?
- How close am I with my family?
- Do I want him/her to have the same bond with their family?
- How involved is your family in your life?
- How involved do you want his/her to be?
Changes in family values and/or upbringing can spell heartbreak if not agreed upon early. Interfaith relationships can work when you both agree to compromise. How much are you willing to compromise?
If you’re a devout Catholic, can you build a family with an atheist? It’s definitely doable, but the real question is “do you want to?”
Today’s Assignment: Take a few minutes to answer the following and reflect on your answers to these questions:
- How important is it for you to always be right?
- When you think of the word “family” what comes to mind?
- How important is it for you to have children?
- How important is religion for you, if at all? Are you comfortable with inter-faith relationships?